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Dudley does say twice that he talked to Bobby Bones and that Mr. Bones said the phones were ringing off the hook to the general manager of 96.7 about this issue. To those calling, I will simply say thank you. I think it is good that people are standing up for sexual assault victims and are actively trying to change the way that people in our local media discuss this topic. Cheers.
[TW for sexual assault, victim blaming.]
Click here, scroll down to Feb 18 11 Pt.
2 1 (PART ONE – can’t believe I mistyped that). If you click the play button, it will load the audio. Then it counts down how much time is left on the clip. They begin talking about my post at 34:23. The topic fades out and into something else near the 7:00 mark. So, it’s long.
I don’t have time to do a transcription now, maybe ever. I also don’t really want to respond because I don’t want to get into it with Dudley because that will obviously go nowhere and I certainly don’t have the resources, the pulpit, or the time to argue with him about this. Yeah, I’d love him to be more respectful when talking about me but I’m not going to even push that. I have never listened to his radio program and based on both the comment he left on my blog and what he said about me, I can assure you I never will.
I will say that I appreciate him being open about his past. I think that is incredibly courageous and could very well help someone listening to his program who is also a victim of past sexual trauma.
But because he is a victim of sexual assault and doesn’t have a problem with what Bobby Bones said (which he admits to not even knowing exactly what Bones said or the context in which he said it) doesn’t mean that I am not allowed to.
In the end, it appears that both Dudley and Bob agree that Bones shouldn’t have touched the topic and are fine with me having a problem with it. Also, Dudley thinks Mr. Bones should apologize but mainly to get me to be quiet.
Dudley’s issue stems from the fact that I aired my grievances publicly and didn’t just write Mr. Bones a letter and hope for the best. He assumes Mr. Bones would have responded with an apology. The problem is that I made Mr. Bones defensive by asking for this apology via my blog and tweeting about it. I shouldn’t have let others know what my problem with the statement was, I guess. As a friend wrote to me, “it appears that DJs believe that they get to say whatever they want without reproach, but not you.”
Of course, in the process of saying these things Dudley calls me a “dummy” and says I am “childish” (the latter specifically because I put the station manager’s email on my post). He also assumes I am a rape victim and still goes after me because somehow the “free thought” that happens on a radio program should be a sacred thing and us listeners should easily forgive people on radio who say things we don’t like or find upsetting because the nature of morning radio is to just say whatever comes into your head without thinking or considering its impact.
Mr. Bones was not the only person who said such things about Lara Logan. I know that. I’m saddened by that. So many people said it that there is no way to actually chronicle or catalog them all. But Mr. Bones was the one I heard about and he is here in Austin. He is the person that my friends listen to and were upset by.
My problem with Mr. Bones stemmed from what he said and nothing more.
I will forever and always ask that people use care when discussing such topics as sexual assault, especially when the people listening to them are very likely sexual assault survivors. Because the last person ever who should shoulder the blame for sexual assault is the person assaulted, and they shouldn’t have to listen to someone say otherwise on a morning radio show (or anywhere ever, really). I stand by my call for Mr. Bones to apologize and I hope that in the future he will take the time to consider how his words about sexual assault may affect listeners of his who are survivors. I still can’t believe how controversial such a request is.
I would ask Dudley to apologize but he makes it clear on his program that that is a futile effort. If you want to ask him, I guess you have to email the program director because Dudley does not have an email (The one he left in my comments was fake). The number for the station is (512) 832-4000 – there I go being childish again! I don’t think I can stop. If only websites of radio stations would stop listing all this contact information…