Two articles from MSNBC:
Those stupid worry wart moms. Jeez.
Child a handful? Laid-back parenting can make matters worse – Kids with poor self-control whose moms parented in a laissez-faire way had higher rates of depression and anxiety, found a new study that looked at the impact of parenting styles on kids with different temperaments.
On this second one, they pretend they are going to direct an article about parenting to, you know, parents. But they then IMMEDIATELY target moms. Of course, the study that the article is based on didn’t even consider fathers when looking at the behavior of children. Moms can single-handlely fuck up their kids, thank you very much. And if a kid is fucked up, why look any farther than the woman who did it to them?
Love you so much, mom!
P.S. In case you were wondering what that second article is supposed to teach you about parenting:
“The main take-home message,” Lengua says, is that “it’s not one size fits all. The same parenting might not work with each child.”
So glad we have this mom-blaming garbage article to drive that point home. What would
parents moms do without the media to tell them what to do?
[UPDATE: I was thinking about this over the weekend. And one more thing I noticed about the second article (the one on parenting styles) is the title. While it makes it seem like this study is about how a laissez-faire style of parenting (whatever the fuck that is) is the problem, the article and the study it is based on is actually more balanced than that (the conclusion that I quoted above is an example). But I think this title is relevant because it points to this more general conservative streak now in how we should relate to each other – the title is premised on this idea that we need to return to some hard-ass, take-no-prisoners version of parenting. That, in fact, the problem is the hippy, love-will-conquer-all, touchy-feely, care-about-emotions type of parenting that is associated with attachment parenting movements and other such liberal parenting ideas. For me, as a parent who does try to be compassionate, to listen to my child, to teach instead of lecture, to guide instead of force, I take titles like this so personally.
And I see this type of thing as an affront on my larger political position – STOP trying to make me believe in harsh conservative ideas about fruitful and useful relationships via my parenting style (especially using fucked up gendered ideas about parenting to do it). Women are so soft nowadays that they are making their children soft and, in turn, society soft. Liberalism and Progressivism have supposedly created the crisis in which we find ourselves because there are people in this society who, lawd forbid, care about the well-being and lives of their fellow citizens. And if we could just make people harder then we would be okay (or maybe that we would simply be better).
Maybe if we INSTEAD taught compassion, the art of listening, the magic of empathy, and the brilliance of love AT THE SAME TIME that we establish boundaries and provide guidelines then we would actually be better off. Why the dearth of compassion nowadays? How come when so many are struggling so much of our response in so many arenas (including stupid and seemingly innocuous parenting articles on the web) is to call for less compassion? Fuck that. And fuck these stupid articles, especially the second one and its dumb title.