My friend wrote me an email to point me towards this amazing post by Blue Milk: Feminists, a little perspective, please.
My friend is pretty far into her first pregnancy at this point and wrote me this message in the email, in response to Blue Milk’s post and her own personal experience with pregnancy (I asked her if I could publish this on my blog and she agreed. I’m hoping that sometime in the nearish future that she’ll be able to write more):
Also, as I move closer to motherhood, I am really dismayed at how mothers sts. aren’t seen as feminists in the eyes of feminists, or how children aren’t people.
Also this: on reproductive rights. I want to give birth in a freestanding birth center. I am moving to the only state that has outlawed them (and one of over a dozen states that has made it illegal for cpm’s [Certified Professional Midwives] to attend homebirths … And so, made homebirth less safe). I have always been pro-choice regarding prevention and termination of pregnancy, but never have I felt personally victimized (having never had an unwanted pregnancy … Or the need to terminate a wanted one) … Until now. Choice should include birth. Contemplating childbirth is a scary thing and I can’t even begin to explain how the fear is compounded by my anger that I can’t give birth where (and, consequently, how (want a waterbirth, no IV, and very minimal monitoring and cervical checks, etc. etc.) I feel the most safe! /end of rant/
Oh, and the last point is not against mainstream feminists as it is the government, duh (i just got ranty is all) except to question why the topic of birth (like, allowing women some or total control over the circumstances of their birth experience) is not included in discussions of government control over uterated bodies? I truly think most women don’t realize how oppressed they are in this respect!
I think this topic needs much more discussion. I became much more vocally pro-choice following my pregnancy and the delivery of my child. I wanted to give birth in a hospital with few interventions (which, thanks to an AMAZING doula, was possible and did happen). My OB fought me most of the way. She told me constantly that I couldn’t possibly labor without drugs. She pushed hard for me to induce the labor without there being any medical reason. We had to ask over and over and over again to get an IV that had a lock so that it could be unattached from my body so I could move around in labor. I could go on and on.
Anyhow, this is say, right on, friend!
[NB: More people than just cis women get pregnant and need more choice in the labor and delivery room, including choosing not to, in fact, be in a labor and delivery room.]